Bringing children home from public school

Ellie working by the garden

It's a very fine and lofty idea, this homeschooling, but where does one start? How can parents bring their children "home" successfully?

A dear mother asked me this question recently and I thought our conversation would benefit many:

Hello, 

I am bringing home my 15 year old daughter after having been in traditional school. I am wondering with three years left of high school can I realistically change her over to this type of learning. I am currently reading homeschool sanity and am very interested in this type of learning but very uncertain as to how to do it. I am a mom to eight. My oldest two children have already graduated. Unfortunately, with a modern education. I am hoping to save the rest of my children from this. I will have five children schooling this fall plus a toddler.

Here is my response:

It was not clear whether or not your remaining five children were being pulled out of government education, so please forgive me if I do not communicate clearly on that point. 

Sarah with math in her room

First of all, you and your children need some time to do what we call "decompressing". To begin to teach your children without allowing them to have a break from all of the pressures and distractions of public schooling is next to impossible for all of you. 

What does this mean? Just taking time to get to know your children, for one thing. It is also time to cleanse your home from distractions you may never have noticed before, such as limiting or eliminating electronic and social media. I know this may seem harsh, but these old methods need for children to have time to develop their own personalities and interests (not in the narcissistic sense, but only as God has created them to serve Him and others). 

We do have Internet access in our home, but only as a rare privilege, under great supervision. We do not own any electronic game equipment whatsoever, and we also own only two cell phones, but these are only as emergency devices, and they are the most basic models.

Patience with colors and stickers

Specifically for your 15yo, you may need to have her take a break from her public-schooled friendships until you establish a new order in your home. At her age, you need to find a way not only to capture her mind, but her heart as well. If she does not have friends to lean on as things are changing so drastically, she may learn that you and your husband, along with her siblings, are indeed her best friends (please forgive me if this is not a problem for you, I am writing this with a few assumptions).

Here are some things I would prescribe for you this summer: 

--go on long walks together
--read aloud a few really interesting novels ("Little Men" is a great one to set the stage)
--give out paper, pencils and crayons and let the children create what they will!
--watch a lot of old films together--the black-and-white ones from the late '30's and '40's that encourage values ("The Big Trail" with John Wayne is a great one, "You Can't Take it With You", "The Angel and the Badman", "Sgt York", "Titanic" [1953 version], etc.).  

Lorilee illustrates her own book

Make it all fun--your enthusiasm will eventually rub off on your children.  

Set a schedule--get up by a certain hour, then do household chores together. Then have a nice brisk walk or something out-of-doors (yard work does wonders for children), and sit down to reading, drawing or other crafting. Have your oldest make lunch for you daily as you catch up on mail, calls, etc.  

Joshua with his McGuffey's work

Create a "culture" in your own home; everyone doing things together, instead of a whole bunch of disjointed activity. Let there be time for individual pursuits, but only after a hefty amount of family interaction.  

And establish respect--if your children do not obey you and your husband, you will not be able to accomplish anything! We even correct for bad attitudes around here, which helps so much! 

This is the best way I know of to set the stage for this new type of education. If you are interested, I could make recommendations for actually starting the formal side of things, but I believe this time of laying a foundation is paramount for you and your family. 

When I asked this reader if I could share with you all, she was more than willing. I know that there are many other families who are struggling with these very issues. I hope this helps!